“How I Went from Chaotic Days to Wise Decisions”

Choosing to Walk in Wisdom as a Busy Mom and Wife

It was tough—being the referee of fighting kids and deciding what’s what every single day. I was always concerned about making the best decisions for my family, about whether I was choosing wisely, about how my words and actions would affect my kids and my marriage. The guilt was real, and some days it felt like I was managing a million little crises and trying to keep everybody from crashing out.

It brought to mind Solomon and the story of the two mothers. He was just a man with a heart willing to ask God for wisdom, not Google, parenting books, or advice from friends. And God didn’t just give him good ideas; He gave him discernment to see the truth. That’s the kind of wisdom I needed when all was hidden beneath confusion and emotion. 

Being a mom and a wife today isn’t much different. Our decisions—big or small—shape the atmosphere of our homes, the hearts of our children, and the health of our marriages. Girl, wisdom is not an option. It’s essential.

But the good news is, we don’t have to rely on our own judgment. James 1:5 reminds us: “If any of you lack wisdom, let him ask of God, that giveth to all men liberally, and upbraideth not; and it shall be given That’s an open invitation to stop spinning in our own doubts and start asking Him to guide our thoughts, our words, and our choices.

Over time, I learned to pause before reacting, to ask God for insight in the middle of chaos, and to model thoughtful decision-making for my children. It doesn’t make everything perfect..but it does make it peaceful and full of purpose. I can navigate the hard calls, protect my home, and lead with love from Him!

Walking in wisdom doesn’t mean we get it right every time. It means we lean on God, pause before we act, and let His guidance shape our words, choices, and hearts. And when we do, our homes become spaces of peace and purpose.

What would wisdom and discernment look like at home?

Responding calmly instead of reacting in frustration, making fair and loving decisions with children, and prioritizing time and energy for what matters most in the household. Even discerning when to pick your battles, discipline, and when not to make a fuss. 

How do we gain wisdom?

Seeking God through prayer, reading Scripture, learning from experiences, listening to godly counsel, and paying attention to the outcomes of past choices.

Try to:

Involve children in age-appropriate decisions to teach responsibility.

Pause before reacting in arguments or misunderstandings, choosing understanding over being “right.”

Schedule time daily for prayer or reflection, journal insights from Scripture, and set small daily habits that align with God’s guidance.

Pause and pray for wisdom before a decision in your home, and notice how God’s guidance shifts your perspective or response.

BONUS: Grab the FREE “Before I lose my 'Ish” one-page guide to calm down and reset the room in the middle of chaos. 

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