My Kids Don’t Listen: Real Talk from a Mom Who’s Been There

Let’s be real for a second, Sis—when my kids don’t listen, it frustrates me like no other. I’m talking about repeating myself for the millionth time, trying to get their attention, and still hearing “What, Mom?” as if they’ve never heard my voice before. Or giving them instructions only to come back and they have done NOTHING!

I know I’m not alone in this. We’ve all had those moments where we feel like we’re speaking to a brick wall. As a mom who values peace, respect, and biblical principles in my home, this struggle can feel especially tough. But as I reflect on my parenting, I’m starting to realize that this is more than just a battle with my kids—it’s also a lesson for me.

Where I Went Wrong (And How I’m Fixing It)

When my kids weren’t listening, I thought I was doing everything right. I was trying to be patient, understanding, and give them second chances. But looking back, I realized I was giving unlimited chances, being inconsistent with boundaries, and at times, ignoring bad behaviors altogether.

I thought I was showing grace, but in reality, I was creating confusion. My kids weren’t learning respect or accountability—they were learning that my words didn’t really carry weight.

So, I’ve decided to shift my approach. And let me tell you, it’s been so much lighter on my sanity.

What I’ve Learned So Far

This journey has been full of learning moments. I’ve realized that I need to be more clear with my instructions, set firm boundaries, and teach my kids that listening is not just a suggestion—it’s a necessity.

But I’m also learning to give myself grace. Parenting is a constant process of growth, and that includes me too.

Let’s talk about one of my most unexpected solutions: Alexa. Yep, you heard that right.

Frustration Becomes Innovation, Alexa Helped Me Stay Sane!

When I was sick of repeating myself for the fifth time, I started using my Alexa Echo Dot to relay messages. Instead of yelling across the house, I simply drop into the Alexa app and boom—the message goes out loud and clear. It’s not perfect, but it’s been a lifesaver, helping me get my point across without the extra frustration of repeating myself.

6 Ways I’m Helping My Kids Learn to Listen

If you’re struggling with the same thing, here are six things I’m doing to teach my kids the importance of listening:

Be Clear and DirectKids are like little sponges, but they can only soak up so much. Instead of giving them long lists of instructions, I’ve started keeping it short and simple. “Please put your shoes in the bin,” rather than “Can you please maybe put your shoes away when you’re done?”
Set Firm BoundariesStructure and consistency are key. I’ve learned that when my kids know what’s expected and what happens if they don’t listen, they’re much more likely to follow through.
Celebrate the GoodPositive reinforcement works wonders! When they listen and follow through, I make sure to acknowledge it. “Thank you for picking up your toys so quickly—that really helps Mommy!” This helps them feel proud of their efforts and encourages them to keep listening.
Follow Through Every TimeNo empty threats here. If I say there’s a consequence for not listening, I follow through. Consistency is everything, and it shows my kids that I mean what I say.
Model Respectful CommunicationIt’s simple: respect is a two-way street. If I want my kids to listen to me, I need to speak to them respectfully. I’ve noticed that when I communicate with kindness and patience, they’re more likely to mirror that behavior.
Use Alexa for MessagesLet’s be honest—sometimes it’s easier to let technology do the heavy lifting. When I’m tired of repeating myself, I use my Alexa Echo Dot to relay messages. Whether it’s reminding them to clean up their toys or telling them it’s time for bed, Alexa makes sure my words are heard. It’s one less thing I have to shout across the house!

Why Listening Matters (For All of Us)

As much as I want my kids to listen to me, I’ve realized that this is also a lesson for me. Parenting is about more than just teaching your kids to follow rules—it’s about growing together.

The more I lead with clarity, consistency, and respect, the more I see my kids learning these values. And while it’s not always easy, every small win reminds me that I’m on the right path.

Sis, You’re Not Alone

If you’re struggling with kids who don’t listen, know that you’re not alone. Parenting is tough, but it’s also an opportunity for growth—for both us and our kids.

With a little patience, creativity, and a bit of tech support from Alexa, we can guide our kids to better listening habits and make our homes more peaceful.

What about you, Sis? How do you get your kids to listen? I’d love to hear your tips and tricks—drop a comment and let’s share what works!

Bonus

Fun Ways to Teach Listening (Without Lectures)

The best part? Teaching my kids to listen doesn’t have to feel like a chore. In fact, I’ve found some fun activities that get the point across while also bonding with my kids:

1. Simon Says

Who doesn’t love a game of Simon Says? This is a classic for a reason. It teaches kids to pay attention and follow instructions, and it’s a fun way to reinforce listening.

2. Acting Out Bible Stories

One of our favorite ways to connect with biblical lessons is by acting them out. We’ve done Jonah and the Whale; the kids love playing their parts. It’s a great way to show them the importance of obedience and listening to God (and to Mom!).

3. Listening, Treasure Hunt

This one’s a hit every time. I give the kids step-by-step directions to find a “hidden treasure” (a small treat or toy). They have to listen carefully to the instructions to get to the prize. It’s an exciting way to teach them the value of paying attention and following through.

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